Psychology wants to know WHY a person becomes the way they are. The idea is that insight produces change. Unfortunately, in most cases it doesn’t produce anything but insight.
I don’t really need to know HOW you became the way you are. There’s nothing wrong with the way you are. You are not broken. In fact, 99.9% of everything is functioning perfectly, and if I go looking for trouble, I’m sure to find it. I’d rather look for what’s working and capitalize on that. For one thing, there’s a LOT more material to work with. It’s also more fun and certainly more efficient.
When you have an unwanted fear, intrusive thought, or some other behavior (internal experiences ARE behaviors) that you’d rather not have, I don’t really care WHY you have that repetitive behavior that is limiting your present experience. There’s a perfectly logical reason for it, and most people already know why they developed an unwanted behavior anyway. They don’t want insight, they want CHANGE. They want to be free of a habit that seems thoroughly intractable. So I need to understand how you KEEP being that way. What are you doing that keeps producing the same response? When we understand how you process, experience, and symbolize that event, we have all the tools we need to CHANGE your experience of that event. When you change the internal experience of an event, the response automatically shifts.
Yes, you CAN overcome a wildly exaggerated fear (some people call it a phobia, but I dislike pathologizing language) in as little as 10 minutes. Is the insight useful? Yes, of course it is. But if CHANGE is what you want, we have the toolkit you’re looking for.
I don’t really need to know HOW you became the way you are. There’s nothing wrong with the way you are. You are not broken. In fact, 99.9% of everything is functioning perfectly, and if I go looking for trouble, I’m sure to find it. I’d rather look for what’s working and capitalize on that. For one thing, there’s a LOT more material to work with. It’s also more fun and certainly more efficient.
When you have an unwanted fear, intrusive thought, or some other behavior (internal experiences ARE behaviors) that you’d rather not have, I don’t really care WHY you have that repetitive behavior that is limiting your present experience. There’s a perfectly logical reason for it, and most people already know why they developed an unwanted behavior anyway. They don’t want insight, they want CHANGE. They want to be free of a habit that seems thoroughly intractable. So I need to understand how you KEEP being that way. What are you doing that keeps producing the same response? When we understand how you process, experience, and symbolize that event, we have all the tools we need to CHANGE your experience of that event. When you change the internal experience of an event, the response automatically shifts.
Yes, you CAN overcome a wildly exaggerated fear (some people call it a phobia, but I dislike pathologizing language) in as little as 10 minutes. Is the insight useful? Yes, of course it is. But if CHANGE is what you want, we have the toolkit you’re looking for.
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